I just wanted to tell you that everything is going to be ok.
Maybe not today. Maybe not tomorrow. Heck, maybe not even next week, next month, or year.
But one day, everything is going to be just fine.
Why am I writing to tell you this?
Because something cropped up for me lately.
Something I didn’t expect to come knocking at my door.
You know those kinds times you just block out of your mind so you can get on with life and then they creep up on you all of a sudden?
Yeah, one of those.
Suffering is part of being human.
We all experience it in some way or another — Heartache, loss, disappointment, trauma.
Whatever it may be, it burns. Sometimes real bad.
And when you’re in the depths of it, it feels almost impossible to see how you can ever climb out.
Even the thought that you may be thankful one day for the pain seems unthinkable.
I get it. Really I do.
And one thing I’ve come to learn is that even in the depths of your suffering, you are powerful.
That’s right, you have a choice to make.
You get to decide whether you let it consume you…
…Or guide you.
I’d be a liar if I said it’s that simple, because I sure know it doesn’t feel that way at the time.
In fact choosing to let pain guide you and help you grow, may be one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do for yourself…
But if there’s something I’ve learnt along the way, it’s that our suffering can bend our mind open to let in the light. And it’s our pain that can help us move towards living a more fulfilling life.
I like to call it — Post Traumatic Growth (not stress).
“PTG” isn’t about staying stuck. It’s about becoming un-stuck and undergoing psychological shifts that allow us to step into being better versions of ourselves.
It’s deeply meaningful.
It’s about welcoming ‘pain’ into your home like it’s your best friend and asking it not to leave until ‘pain’ has taught you what you need to know. And then welcoming it back in again when you’re ready to learn (and grow) even more, all over again.
I believe that because I’ve learnt to do this, I’ve created a life that becomes more and more beautiful — so I wanted to share 3 things with you that I’ve taken away from my lessons (so far), so you can embrace them sooner:
1. Love compassionately, and forgive
…not just others, but yourself too!
I believe it’s true that we cannot forgive others until we forgive ourselves first.
And we cannot truly love others or be compassionate, until we can show love and compassion to ourselves, first.
I have always said that ‘pain, is pain, is pain’… we cannot compare ones story to another on a pain scale of 1 to 10. Nu-uh.
When you hurt, one of the best things I’ve learnt to initially do for myself is to get in touch with my emotions. Be willing to feel how I really feel, be hungry to understanding WHY I feel what I feel, no matter how ugly I think it might get.
Self-reflection and understanding is the pre-requisite to your own deeper, psychological growth.
It’s your armour to help you endure whatever your journey throws at you.
2. Ask for the lesson
…because within all pain and suffering, is a lesson to be learned.
If you don’t want a painful experience to consume you, you’ve got to look for the lesson and run with it.
No matter what the experience is, there’s always, always, alllways, something to be taken away.
If you’ve been faced with a serious illness, perhaps it’s showing you what to prioritise.
If you’ve been faced with heartbreak, perhaps it’s showing you the path to loving yourself first, and welcoming an even greater love.
If you’ve been manipulated, perhaps it’s telling you to step-up and not allow yourself to be treated like that EVER again.
You always have the power to look for what you can learn from each experience along the way.
3. Take action
…because only real positive growth occurs when you act.
How many times have you read something, listened to something, learnt something, thought it was a genius idea, yet never… put it into play in your life?
I’ve done it many times.
And I’ve seen the same lessons showing up time and time again when I haven’t fully embraced, or believed in the lesson an experience was teaching me…
Yet when it returns on my doorstep and strikes 10 times harder than before, I take action.
Don’t do a me and allow it to come back and hit you like a ton of bricks.
Real personal growth comes from the willingness to change, the willingness to do things differently.
Your actions will determine the next paragraph of your story.
So lovely, if you’re suffering right now, here’s my words to you that I wish I had realised during my dark times a few years back.
Just know it’s going to be ok. And just know, that you hold the power to make the change, today.
You got this.
Love you billions, 😘
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