The other day I wrote an article about why if Friday is your favourite day of the week, you’ve got some serious changes to make…
And it got me thinking about passion.
Specifically what it means to find it, and why actually I’m somewhat against it.
Or at least I’m against preaching you find it.
When you don’t enjoy what you do to make a living, and you dread waking up everyday to go through all the effort it takes to get your ass into gear, and get ready for work…
And someone tells you:
“All you need to do is find your passion, and everything will be blue skies and rainbows.”
It’s kinda like, p*ss off.
If anything, I think it’s an unhelpful suggestion and doesn’t do much to help you move forward.
Let me go back a few years before I found myself where I am today…
When I was a child, I lived life believing my passion was singing. All I wanted was to be a Pop Star.
I held concerts for my toys in my bedroom with the lights dimmed down low and a hairbrush in my hand (typical). I bought a book telling you how to make it big as a Pop Star, and I even applied to a British TV show called ‘Stars In Their Eyes’ to go on as Jennifer Lopez (because I seriously thought I sounded like her).
I’ll give it to myself, I had some gutsy confidence! But I’m glad I never actually made it through, I might not be alive today 😂…
I’m not a singer, not on Jennifer Lopez’s level anyway, so if I had followed that passion through, I would have fallen quick.
A few years on, I was passionate about ‘being a spy’, and ‘being a vampire slayer’. But lets get real… Need I say anymore?
Then, when I was 13 I found Karate.
The love of my life.
It was my life.
I did it for 10 years and seriously thought I had found my calling.
I wanted to live my life competing around the world, training in Japan, and on top of that, have my very own dojo so I could teach the art I had fallen deeply in love with to others.
I honestly thought I had found the one thing I was put on this earth for — until my back went out and I couldn’t walk (and some other dark things happened, but that’s a story for another time)…
If I had carried on, let’s just say I’m not sure where I’d be emotionally. And I know 10000000% it would not have been the best decision for myself to stay. So I had to let go of that.
Then I thought my passion was Dentistry.
I wanted to become a Dentist.
But who was I kidding? If I’m honest, I just wanted to do it as some huge achievement everyone would be proud of me for.
And following something to make others ‘happy’, or to have people perceive you in a certain way, is no way to live.
You’ll only walk around wondering what if…
And then it hit me… What was the one thing I had always done, in every spare moment I had — writing.
Since the moment I learnt how to write, which was pretty quick, I always had a journal on me.
I’d write music, poetry, spill my thoughts out on paper, read, analyse words, fall in love with songs because of the lyrics, blog secretly… words had always been my thing.
And through writing, I found something else I adore — Digital Marketing, and using the power of words to help people find solutions, to whatever it is they need.
Now I’m not claiming to be a New York Times Best Selling type ofwriter, nor am I saying I’m anywhere near as good as those who ghostwrite, or write copy for the big boys… Nowhere close.
But what I am is curious. Curious to see how good I can become through doing it.
And thanks to those great writers who make magic happen daily, I’m inspired everyday, and have high standards to strive for.
So back to why I’m against preaching the whole ‘find your passion’ thing that comes out of peoples mouths…
If you have a clear passion, odds are, you’d already be following it — so you don’t need someone to tell you to pursue it.
After all, that’s pretty much what passion means:
Something you chase obsessively because you feel so pulled to doing it.
And a lot of people don’t know what their passion is.
Some might have a handful of passions (like I did, yeah Spies, Vampire Slayers, Pop Stars, Ninjas… Teeth?!).
And others, they might be going through a transition of passions, which can lead to confusion and feeling ‘stuck’.
If you don’t have a clue what your passion is, and somebody tells you to go follow it, it’s kinda like telling you that all you need in order to be thin is to lose weight, or all you need to do in order to lose weight is eat healthy; that doesn’t help!
It’s obvious, and it’s ‘yawn’.
I’m a passionate person. I really get into things. But not everyday.
Some days I wake up wondering where my passion has run away to.
I don’t always feel struck with inspiration, and I don’t always know what to do next, actually usually once a month I feel a bit ‘lost’ (but maybe that’s my girl-mones kicking in, ha)…
But I won’t ever sit around waiting for passion to slap me in the face.
I keep going. Because life isn’t certain. It’s full of uncertainty, and change is inevitable.
We have so much opportunity handed to us on a plate to keep making things, and keep doing things for as long as we’re here.
Even when I’ve lost sight of what I’m doing, I have full faith that it’ll spark in me again.
So how do you find the inspiration to get up and go, do the work, and put in the time and energy when your passion his fled, or you don’t even know what it is?…
Finding a passion isn’t a goal, it isn’t a destination, it’s a process.
What makes you tick? What motivates you? What are the values that guide the direction of your life?
You figure things out as you go along, not all at once.
Just like I did. By writing and helping to manage a blog, social media and a weekly email in every spare moment I had… I found myself where I am today. And I’m not standing still where I am, I haven’t made it to a destination, I know this curiosity can only keep moving me forward… and continue personal growth.
Give yourself permission to be curious.
And put a middle finger up to the phrase ‘follow your passion.’
By being curious, you might just find it, or at least you’ll learn a ton about yourself along the way. ✌️
Now go enjoy the process 😉
Love ya zillions,
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